In recognition of Eating Disorder Awareness Week, we have invited the inspiring, Danielle Crowe, owner of Body Solace Yoga and co-founder of Find Solace Within to write a guest post about the importance of taking care of our bodies. Her words are powerful and impactful- be prepared to start loving yourself a little bit more today. 🙂
Often when we think of our “home,” we think of where we wake up, and where we come back to after work. It’s our house, our apartment, our dorm, wherever. We could also take it a step further and consider our “home” to be our current town, province, country, the place we were born, or where our family immigrated from.
But do you ever consider your home to be the one place that you never leave? That’s right, I’m talking about your body; your skin, your organs, your senses… the place where your soul lives.
Now before you click exit and think I’m about to get all “woo woo” on you, don’t worry, I’m not. But I am going to be real. You see, your body – along with the place that your body lives – is your home. We often think that we are our bodies, but we’re not. Our body is our shell, no different than the siding and insulation that surrounds us, and just like the paint on the walls and furnishings around the house, we like to decorate ourselves with stylish clothing, makeup, dying/styling our hair, etc.
But here’s the thing: I am doubtful that you would just walk into your home one day, or every day, and start trashing it. Sure, there are exceptions, like during renovations when you’re smashing down a wall, or when you’re pissed off and you throw a couple pillows… but in most circumstances, you wouldn’t insult and hate on the place you called “home” every day.
So why do we do it to our bodies?
Now, I understand that we can’t choose our bodies in the way that we can choose the town we move to, or the house we live in, but our bodies are the greatest home we’ll ever have. Our bodies allow us to travel to exotic places, to see beauty all around us, to smell fresh cookies, to hug our loved ones, and to taste summer berries… our bodies allow us to experience life!
Our bodies need us to treat them with the respect they deserve. Sure, some bodies will be small homes, some will be big homes, some will have nice landscaping, and some will be called “haunted,” when really, they’re simply wise. But regardless of the shape or exterior of the home, we need to treat our bodies like the palace they truly are.
Stop comparing your home to the rest of the homes on the street. Our bodies are not meant to be perfect or designed to fit into some mold that society currently deems as “best.” (What does that even mean?) And wait 5-10 years… just like home design, some other part of the body, or body shape will be glorified.
You can change your hair color, your weight, or your clothes, but one thing will always remain the same: your body is your home. And until you start accepting it exactly as it is; all its creaks, cracks and character – then you will always feel like a visitor. You’ll never unpack your bags because you won’t feel comfortable as your true self, you’ll always expect an eviction letter because you’ll feel like a fraud, and you’ll complain that your garden won’t grow because you won’t tend it and help develop it.
There is a reason that some houses make you feel more comfortable, and certain towns make you put down roots… I think it’s because of the sense of familiarity, the memories that have been made, and the potential to make more. Your body isn’t any different. It’s been with you since day one, it’s grown with you, taken care of you, been through ups and downs with you, and will continue to be with you until the end of your life. There is nothing more precious than the very place that your soul resides in; it’s the only place you truly live.
Take a moment to look in the mirror, and tell me, what do you see? Maybe it’s the lines on the wall where your height was measured each year as you grew, maybe it’s the scratches on the floor where you and your girlfriends had too much fun dancing in your heels, or maybe it’s the hole in the wall where you finally realized that it was time you learned to control your emotions and ask for help. Whatever you see when you look in the mirror, see the memories, see the experiences, see the life.
The next time you find yourself wishing you could move bodies like you can move houses, I ask that you remind yourself that your body is your one true home.
By: Danielle Crowe, co-founder of Find Solace Within
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